It is your self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people.
Social competence is your ability to understand other people’s moods. behaviour and motives to respond effectively and improve the quality of your relationships.
It is to recognize and understand your moods and motivations and their effect on others. To achieve this state, you must be able to monitor your emotional state and identify your sources of emotions.
Those who have self-awareness display confidence, a sense of humour (can laugh at themselves), and awareness of a personal impression on others (can read the actions of others to know how they are perceived)
Self-Regulation
It is the ability to control your impulses. You learn to express yourself appropriately. Those who have reached this point of EI are very thoughtful, take personal responsibility for their work/words, and become adaptable (and favourable) to change.
Internal Motivation
It is marked by an interest in learning. It is self-improvement against the pursuit of personal rights and status (as a pursuit of rights and status is an external motivator).
Those with EI display initiative, commitment to complete a task, and perseverance in the face of adversity. The intrinsic motivation outweighs the external motivation.
You can turn an act of disgrace to your advantage. It’s like dancing in the rain. Always allow your internal motivations to overcome external circumstances.
Empathy
It is the ability to understand another person’s emotional reaction. This is only possible when one has achieved self-awareness: you understand who you are, and you cannot understand others until you understand them.
Those with El have a thorough grasp of others’ emotions and take an active interest in their concerns.
They can anticipate certain needs and the appropriate action to that need, while not allowing officials to faze them by becoming a boundary of limitation for empathy.
Social Skills
It is identifying social cues to establish grounds of engagement with someone who manages relationships and networks.
Those with El are great communicators (listening and responding appropriately), influencers, and leaders with the ability to guide and inspire. And manage conflict, the ability to diffuse difficult situations using persuasion and negotiation.
Ways to Increase Emotional Intelligence
Learn to increase your El. The following are ways to increase your EL.
Build up a healthy emotional vocabulary.
Be able to understand what you feel and give it a name. All persons experience emotions, but it is only a few can accurately identify them as they occur.
According to Travis Bradsberry, research shows that only a percentage of people can do this, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions.
While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad.”Emotionally Intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable” frustrated” downtrodden,” or “anxious”.
Become interested in the people around you.
People are the engine room of every organization. The more you care about other people and what they are going through, the more curiosity you are going to have about them.
Acclimatize to the atmosphere around you.
Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting.
Understand your strengths and weaknesses.
Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand emotions; they know what they are good at and what they are terrible at. They also know who and what pushes their emotional buttons and the environments (both situations and people)that enable them to succeed.
Know how to say no (to yourself and others)
Emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control. You delay gratification, and you avoid impulsive action.
Be a good judge of character.
Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people, know what they are about, and understand what they are going through.
Becomes difficult to be offended.
If you have a firm grasp of who you are, it’s difficult for someone to say or do something that gets you off like a gas tank. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a thick skin.
You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you can mentally draw the line between humour and degradation.
Build up your sense of confidence.
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction is derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your happiness.
Neutralize toxic people
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people can take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
Don’t seek perfection.
Taking time to contemplate what you are grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23 per cent.
Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy, and physical well-being. Lower levels of cortisol likely played a major role in this.
Log out from your location.
Have the ability to zone out from an emotional event.
Stop negative self-talk in its tracks.
The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from facts to escape the cycle of negativity.
Conclusion
Emotional intelligence (EI) is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately.
It is to use emotional information to guide thinking and behaviour and to manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goal(s). Having it is the difference between high-performance and average leaders.
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