How can I tell if your fellow man is emotionally troubled? Warning signs may not always be clear-cut, but here are some ways to tell if he is just having a difficult day or dealing with something more serious in his life. These signs are accompanied by solutions that will free you from troubled worries and anxieties.
1. Changes in behaviour
Behaviour is the way one acts or conducts oneself toward others. Your ability to be sensitive to a man’s altered behaviour will give you a clue about what is going on in his mind. What are some behaviour changes:
Feeling depressed or unhappy
Signs of a troubled mind include being sad or irritable for the last few weeks or more, lacking motivation and energy, losing interest in a hobby, or being teary all the time.
Sleep problem
A change must be made in his sleep pattern. For example, lack of sleep or difficulty in sleeping.
Emotional outbursts
He becomes touchy, as the sudden and dramatic changes in mood may manifest as extreme distress or anger. And here is a drama around him that isn’t usual; he is troubled, but isn’t saying something because he is either afraid of it or can’t put himself together yet to share it.
Quiet or withdrawn
Withdrawing from life, especially if this is a major change, could indicate a troubled mind. If your husband begins to regularly isolate himself, it is a sign of someone who is dealing with unspoken issues.
He no longer participates in activities he once enjoyed. He isolates himself from friends and family and communicates less than normal. Probably, if he or she refuses to join in social activities, that may be a sign he needs help.
2. Changes in mood
A troubled mind always has a worried mind. He begins worrying and stressing out more than usual. He also starts overreacting to situations or becoming irritated, angry, or aggressive more easily. He also shows signs of someone who is feeling sad and hopeless all the time; there is something wrong with his mind.
3. Changes in appearance
When a man begins neglecting hygiene or basic care, like how often they bathe, change clothes, cut their hair, or shave, they look tired or sad frequently.
If you observe weight or appetite changes, there is something wrong. For some men, fluctuating weight or rapid weight loss could be one of the warning signs.
He begins to physically deteriorate in physique, yet he pretends as if all is well. It is very important to look vigilantly, to ascertain whether something is eating him deep that he has not been telling anybody.
4. Changes in what he says.
Words are gateways to the soul. A person’s words are easily the best way to pick out what may be going on in their mind. When your husband begins to express negativity in words, there is something he is battling with in his mind. Words like:
‘I’m a failure’, ‘It’s my fault’,’ I’m worthless’, “I always mess up everything in my life”; “What’s the point”? “I don’t feel well.” When he expresses physical complaints, like constant headaches, exhaustion, or stomach cramps, there is more to it than meets the eye.
Similarly, what he posts online on his social media handles will give you a clue about what is going on in his mind. Watch out for strong comments of judgment, condemnation, and disillusionment.
It posts dark poetry or quotes, disturbing songs or videos revealing the things going on in his mind; using hashtags that are connected to topics you find unusual or worrisome for them (#overit #imdone#igiveup), and using sad, distressed emoticons or emoticons of destructive things such as guns and knives.
See, ongoing and significant changes could be signs that he has or is developing a troubled mind. If something doesn’t seem quite right, which you have noticed around him. If we have the person, we have to find a way to help him.
Solutions for a Troubled Man
What should you do when you notice a change in your husband’s mood, behaviour or what he says?
1. Encourage Him To express his pain
Men should learn how to talk out and express their frustrations, troubles, or torments. Stop bottling up what you are going through. The truth is that a problem shared is half solved. Stop trying to be a man by dying in silence.
Talk and talk out. Men must learn how to express their pains and talk about their challenges. Your ability to talk out and seek help will bring healing faster to you and help those around you.
2. Make yourself available for him
Men characteristically shut in and don’t share their troubles because they don’t want to overburden their loved ones. They also believe that they can cope and find a solution to their issues by themselves.
A man loves to find solutions by himself. His self-worth is increased when he does so. The only challenge here is that he doesn’t know it all and can always find a solution if he shares the challenge.
3. Develop and follow your instincts
Instincts are crucial. The spirit of God will call your attention to certain patterns developing in a man’s life. Learn how to trust your instincts and pay attention to what you notice and why it troubles you.
Sometimes, even when your instincts tell you that something is off with a man in your fellowship, you second-guess your feelings because you don’t want to make a wrong assumption and offend him. So, we push it away.
Learn to follow the leading of the spirit and have time to specifically pray for him based on the instincts you have. Remember, instinct is not suspicion or becoming a monitoring spirit. In prayer, God can reveal things about you and tell you what to do.
Be a Calming Influence
Several times, why men share is based on how we react to what they say or do. It is not the time to remind him that he is a man and stop acting like a woman. He is a man, yes, but a human being. He is not superhuman.
Don’t mock him with his current condition or actions. Talk him out of his fears and troubling patterns of behaviour. Always remember to show him respect by what you say and how you say it. Don’t make him look stupid.
Show him where to find help. What makes most men shut in and shut down is that those around them cannot think. Having you as a brother beside him should be a plus. Develop yourself so that you can think on the spot. Be solution-driven.
Conclusion
A man experiences a battleground of emotions. He tries to conceal what he feels to keep caring for and carrying the family because he feels it is his responsibility. Many men are hurting, and I want you to know that God can bring healing to your heart and help you overcome what troubles your heart. Read more similar posts on our medicine and health page of the site.
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